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Survival Mode? Ready to Implode!

Anyone else miss 2019? Sweet Jesus I miss… well,you name it and it’s missed! Oh the Facebook posts, the “research”, MEMES?!! And my favorite (notating sarcasm) the PPE. Can I just please go back to the gym? Life seemed better when I had OrangeTheory in my corner. But, I’m not hear to follow suit of so many others and complain that life has thrown me the worst of curve balls. I’m here to share how I have turned an incredible opportunity into my very own pitty party.

I have managed to, all on my own with no help from President Trump, Governor Inslee or the media, put on 10 pounds. Yes, I did it on my own. I was not force fed by some dough boy or no Tiger made me go through a whole bag of Frosted Flakes. I allowed this to happen. Is this difficult times? Maybe for some who are without jobs but seriously, I have one of the most amazing jobs, my husband is still working and now our 19 year old daughter decided in-light of the pandemic to put a hold on college and work for Amazon until things settle down. Our son is legit the coolest boy EVER. He rolls with the punches, gets frustrated and lifts weights then watches Spongebob. Oh, I didn’t mention we have everything I would need to workout at home except Linda, Julie and Sara motivating with their witty (occasionally a little terrifying) banter. Love them. Over 30 days of quarantine and nothing but extra weight to show for it.

It sounds like complaining but what I’m really doing is giving y’all my confession. I’ve always told my sweet daughter there is a time and a place to have your pitty party but then get over it, pull up your big girl panties and get on with your life!! I spent most of my day thinking about how people have let me down. Hashtags I detest #squadgoals #mytribe and #girlboss. If you search Instagram you will find 14.7 million post with #bossbabe and 605 thousand #bossman posts. Relevance to this blog is probably 0 but relevance to my life 100%. I believe women should support one another but who is in my corner? This thought process is what has turned 2020 into a 3 month self sabotage. I say 3 months because I crushed January.

Realizing/remembering that I am the one that does the work. I am the one who makes the decision to workout, eat healthy and love myself.

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Coping skills

Wow! Drama can take a huge toll on the soul. Prior to 2019 I have not had the best coping skills. Sleeping, over eating, cheesecake gets its own recognition, and self mutilation (not as bad as it sounds). With this post I am asking for responses. Let’s practice better mental health together.

Sometimes knowing how to mentally deal with a situation is harder than the actual problem. One habit I despise is sleeping. When I am overwhelmed sleep is my go to comfort. My hope is that when I wake up things will be better or I will be refreshed enough to deal. This is rarely the case. Sleeping only prolongs the inevitable. Life is still waiting when I wake up.

Combining Oreos and Cheesecake should be a crime. I am a firm believer that when life hands you lemons, make lemon pie. The high one can get from an overload of carbohydrates has to be better than any street drug. The downside is when you are trying to be healthier and you have a setback of days to weeks, depending on how long you comfort eat. Unfortunately, this last dramatic episode of my life happened around my daughter’s birthday and we had fresh Cheesecake Factory Oreo Cheesecake.

Have you noticed how many teens are resulting to self harm these days? Seriously, it has become the thing to do when life beats you up. But little did I know I too practiced self harm. I get really dry calloused heels. The more stressed/upset I would become the more I would pick at those callouses. Sometimes until my feet bleed and it was hard to walk. Many times I had to wrap my feet just to get through the day. I never thought about this as self mutilation but it is and too many people harm themselves as a coping mechanism.

Over the last few months I have learned to find better strategies to maneuver through this life God has so graciously given. My favorite is exercise, particularly Orange Theory Fitness. Is it the workout or the commitment? Both, to have a coach  pushing you to give 100% of yourself for 60 minutes and knowing if I skip a workout they charge me extra. In this workout I am not giving the coach or anyone else that 100%, it is for me and me alone. It is my time to see how far and how hard I can go. My time to get out of my head. What better way to get your clients to show up for themselves than to charge extra money for not attending!

Secondly, prayer. I spend more time asking God to light me up with his grace and love. If I am living for him and him through me; I can’t go wrong. I have found a devotional app for my phone and when the social media world becomes too much I can switch over and read something worth my time. I actually try to read this before my social media. I find things annoy me less and honestly I see more positive posts.

Lastly, time. With time all wounds heal. They have to be mended and cared for but with patience they will heal. This works well with my marriage. Hurtful words said in the heat of the moment take much longer to heal than the time to say “I’m sorry”.  As a wife I understand sometimes he needs time to feel/see my love after a disagreement and the same for myself. Focusing on the good and realizing the bad is just a small part of the whole.

Comfort food will always be one of my coping mechanisms but now I make myself think of the long term consequences. Either way, knowing that life is way to precious to give in to the drama. Wake up each day knowing that today has to ability to be the best day ever. Wake up and be a better version of you than yesterday.

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When your BETTER plan overwhelms your life

Sometimes you just have to stop, sit back and think where am I going with this. What is my purpose of this blog? To help someone and honesty be heard even if no one ever really reads my blog. I can pretend, I don’t look at my stats. My house is a mess as I sit here recovering from a migraine. A migraine that got worse because I didn’t want to miss going to Orange Theory Fitness and maintaining my health goals. Podcasts are my go to inspiration on how to keep going and why I should keep going, shout out to Rachel Hollis and her Rise podcast! No you are not my cheerleader but you do inspire me to keep being better.

December 2018 I wanted to read a book every month. A healthy mix of inspirational, self help and entertainment (romance of course). Oh and educational, be a better Labor and Delivery nurse. I’ve read 1/2 maybe 3/4 of a book. Its almost March and I feel like I’m failing an English Lit class in High School. It’s not that I don’t want to but where is the TIME.

Organization, you can’t see me but insert eye roll and laughter. I am barely maintaining and post migraine I’m not even maintaining. Dishes in the sink, dog hair on the floor, a spare room that looks like a hurricane came through, I lost my OTBeat core monitor for working out (it was in the laundry, found after a full week!) and so much more.

Self care has been the one thing I have been consistent with, maybe. I do go to OTF regularly and LOVE it for the motivation and energy. However, my diet seems to one of a teenage girl that just broke up with her boyfriend of 2 days and the world is ending. Ice cream and nachos are my most recent indulgences. My heart health is getting better, resting heart rate is down, recovery is faster from cardio and sleeping heart rate dip is increased.

This is where I do my conclusions I guess, maybe extra credit? Reevaluation time and goal setting. I heard something the beginning of February that this is the month people loose sight of their resolutions. I didn’t make resolutions so maybe that’s why I am still going. I made life changing choices and THAT FEELS EMPOWERING TO SAY! I did not plan to type that, just like everything else I write. It comes from the heart and how I feel at the moment. I want to be real, no filter no edit… maybe spell check. I think I need to pick one thing to work on in March and tackle the others as the opportunity arises. Don’t worry, the dishes will get done, I have teenagers. Insert their eye roll.